Thanksgiving 2012

Am dying. Sinuses. Tried flushing the evil out of them with creepy saline rinse - was promised relief, got three days of sneezing salt water.

Despite this, THANKSGIVING. Which I love. With people I love. More of them in one place this year than in years past.

I fed the people cinnamon buns and mimosas while they played with birds and electronics.

My turkey was laughable, and weighed less than the cat. We ate the entire thing, and felt very accomplished. Next year, will go shopping sooner than two days beforehand, and beat those other greedy consumers off the 24lb birds - using the 12lb bird I ended up with.

I prepped the cousins on etiquette beforehand, and everyone got through the feast with minimal sucking-cup-onto-face-edness.

Now it is officially Christmas season, and I can stop pretending like I haven't already been listening to Baby it's Cold Outside for the past 2 weeks.

The only version of this song that doesn't sound like a date-rape ballad.

conversation with my mom

Discussing the marginal writing in Game of Thrones, which I've been reading because we've started watching the series.

me: The style is very woo, I'm writing a fantasy novel. Like, there's a dire wolf that is killed, but as she's dying she whelps her pups, and they're all, it's a sign! because there's one pup for each of the lord's children. And they're all too small to open their eyes, being just born and all, except for the albino wolf pup, who's eyes are open. For some reason.

mom: And then come to find out the pup has defective eyelids. And - it's a sign! It's a watch dog.


 I died.

I admit it

Being back home again after 6 years, I've been moving like someone reading crowded bathroom graffiti. The things I wanted to forget are still here, scrawled into every surface. People who left their imprints on the couch, voices on the phone, the loop of sidewalk I ran with angsty music in my ears, lanes of traffic I still navigate on auto-pilot. After all this time, it's comforting again.

So a few months ago, I found out that I was pregnant. This was not happy news - it made my hands shake and ears go cold. Around that time, the I wish my mother had aborted me article was circulating the internet, and I read it thoughtfully before deciding the article was bullshit. This was not a story about why a woman should have had an abortion - it was a story about why a woman should have dumped her damn boyfriend. It would have been my mother's story, my sister-in-law's story, my aunt's story, but these women bit down, left the men, and went on with their lives, education, and careers with their children. I still might have gone in for the pills, but my cousin had just lost her baby at 22 weeks, and it felt cold of me to discard the pregnancy while still grieving with the family for hers. I couldn't do it. But I had the choice, and being able to make that decision and move ahead with purpose was important. Had I been forced, I would have been desperate to claw it from my body.

So I needed to leave Maui, like, now. I had been interviewing for transfers for months, and the government hiring scene was grim. Leap and the net will appear, they say. I sent the kids ahead to Oahu. I gave up the job. Mike came and gathered me bodily to take me home. I had mixed feelings about that. I can't get rid of him, but I need the help, and he's kind.

Now there is family, and illustration, and holidays, and time. Gavin rides to school on the back of my mom's motorcycle, wearing a new helmet because he outgrew his old one - which makes him a hell of a lot cooler than I was at 9 years old, and gives me a lurch of anxiety every time I wave goodbye manically to them in the mornings. Leif is finishing his month at preschool before staying home to challenge my skills as nurturing stay-at-home parent - a gig which drove me to get my Master's degree and publish a book the first time I attempted it. I've been making a routine of housework and cooking, which has resulted in my closing myself into doors, splattering dishwater and stove grease all over my belly, falling over headlong while trying to bend over with a dustpan, and scrabbling on furniture to stand up after sitting down and getting stuck. My natural pelican-like grace has been even further compromised. I'm still trying to figure out how I feel about this thing that is happening, but I've been making sure to separate my feelings about the pregnancy from my feelings about the baby. She didn't do anything wrong here, and she's mine. The little kicks and hiccups make it easier. She's a quieter fetus than the boys were, so far.

yesterday, 24 weeks

I've also become reluctantly attached to the ugly little baby birds, which I've been nannying during the days. They have horrifying little feathers now. Should knit them a snugli.

erlack. And awww.

So that's that. I am embarrassed and scared and determined and optimistic. Which is pretty standard stuff for this type of thing. So if I look suspiciously fat in some of my recent pictures, that is why. And it's just how it's going to be for the next 3 months. 

settling

So far, in my new role of household layabout, I have managed in less than a week to completely destroy my mother's house. Also, I don't know how to open the dishwasher.

The barge unit arrived, a van was rented, the inherited furniture was unloaded (these are my mother's, entrusted to me by a relative in California 4 years ago, which has taken this long to get home to her because of inter-island shenanigans), and in order to make room for the hutch, a desk had to be moved. This desk caused a shuffling of furniture which resulted in a wall-length mirror getting torn out. The adhesive on the mirror gouged giant holes in the wall. Which necessitated patching and painting, and meanwhile everything has been crammed with boxes of books which can't be unloaded without the shelves, which can't be mounted until the wall is repaired, and it is just a chain-reaction of logistical fuckery. The closets need to be arranged to accommodate trunks and a couple bins of quilts and holiday trappings, and I suck at Tetris. I have the spacial-arrangement skills of a thing that doesn't have any spacial-arrangement skills. Also no attention span for it. Guess what I am supposed to be doing right now?

Not this.

On top of moving hassles, a very distressed construction worker showed up at the house with a box full of baby birds he found while tearing out an attic, because my mom has a reputation for being some sort of wild bird rescue wizard. 

They are the most adorably horrifying things ever, and now my mom is in love with them. She carries them in a little box stuffed down her motorcycle jacket, keeps them under a warming light, and plugs them full of baby bird formula with a syringe every 30 minutes. They are supposed to turn into Java Sparrows.

I am not sure about this. They look more like Skeksis to me.

 Laundry to fold. Boxes to unpack. Furniture to shuffle. Dishwasher to take a crowbar to. I am doing it.

Halloween 2012

Rescue

While our friend Jeanie's house in Breezy Point burned to the ground, I was being retrieved from Maui in a permanent manner. Finding ourselves with three cats and two carriers, Mike and I cut peep holes in a cardboard box, stuffed the largest hamcat into it, and duct-taped it shut. 20 minutes into the 2-hour drive to town, Sookie pooped in the box. We pulled over the car and the moving van, ripped open the duct tape, laid down fresh piddle pads, stuck her back in, and weighed the top shut with my backpack.

40 minutes later, she pooped again.

And escaped out the top of the box.

And got poop all over my backpack.

There was wrestling and tape stuck to the cat and expletives and flailing with pee pads, then she was back in the box, box turned on its side to trap her in, seat belt around the box. The other cats gave her side-eye from their carriers.

Mike unloaded furniture from the van and packed a barge unit single-handedly (amazing) while I checked the car in for shipment. We rode the empty van to Walmart, got a large carrier for the enormous cat, and she trotted inside it with obvious relief. We have forever ruined her potential to be the next internet box cat.

All went well until the plane landed in Honolulu, and I paced the baggage claim, waiting for someone to come out with my hamcat. Finally, a guilty-looking employee emerged with the carrier, admitted that the clips had all burst open, the carrier had fallen apart, and that Sookie the hambeast had been loose in the cargo hold when they finally found and caught her behind some baggage. She looked as if she did not appreciate the adventure, huddled in the back of the carrier with saucer-eyes.

My mom fetched us from the airport; Gavin hugged me tightly while I kissed his hair, then crooned into the carriers at the angry cats.

When we stopped at the preschool to pick up Leif, he ran and tackled me, and we kissed each other until we cried. I missed my boys so much, it's still hard to believe that the difficulty of this past year is over, that we can relax as a family, and nobody has to leave again.

Halloween

The next morning, Sal was on Day 3 with no power in New York, Jeanie started her trip home to rescue her family, and Leif helped me hang up paper decorations to lure trick-or-treaters.

The pumpkin was adorable, the biggest one Leif could carry home from his preschool field trip to the pumpkin patch. Gavin designed, I carved. My kids are weenies about getting pumpkin goo on their hands, which I always thought was the best part.

The young cousins stormed the house, and Gavin had a great time terrorizing the picky eaters with my meal preparations - "Mom is making OCTOPUS for dinner!" These were wieners that were snipped at the ends so they curled into tentacles when you boiled them.

When I put their plates out they ate the poor creatures in a gruesome, ketchup-bloody manner. So that worked according to plan.

The valley swarms with tiny ghouls every year, and we had a mountain of candy to appease them. Fewer and fewer lights have been on in recent years, and small feet have to venture farther into the neighborhood to fill their buckets, but we found haunted houses, graveyards of zombies, and tents full of drunk Bob Marleys despite the flagging economy. 

I SAID HOLD STILL AND LOOK CUTE

man and spawn

 horribly unflattering picture of the women-folk and sprogs

My mom, Valhallarama, stayed behind with her sister, Betsy Ross, and handed out candy with Sweet Transvestite blaring on the stereo. The littles gave out before the big kids, so I brought them home to dump out their loot and took up my traditional duty as Beer Wench, keeping the adults watered.

The big kids staggered in not long after, and we raged with sugar until the last sorry teenagers straggled through at 9pm.

Success.

Tsunami

The warning sirens started going off at bedtime, and the phone started lighting up with texts. My home is on high ground, I could listen to the cops whipping by to round up the drunks at the beach, and tried to stay awake by watching Game of Thrones, but I fell asleep during the live-streaming webcam footage of the waves. One would think that, given all the tsunamis in recent years, the news stations would have a more sophisticated option for surveillance than hotel webcams. Nobody could see what happened to Kahului, and when I checked again this morning, the official word was, "It is dark out." Very helpful.

And of course I have to drive out today.

Will take pictures if there are sharks on the road.

time wasting through productivity

I have been completely failing at packing and donating and getting stuff ready to move. I have been succeeding wildly, though, at activities which keep my ass parked in front of Misfits.

The weekends are long and quiet. As an introverted-type who deals with the public all week, I like the alone time, although in general I feel comforted having someone like-minded around the house messing with their own projects. Especially if those projects result in beer or furniture or fancier backyard lounging.

On Canadian Thanksgiving  (I was born in Newfoundland) I used the excuse to put on almost-Christmassy classical music and fix a feast in miniature. The sweet potatoes were purple, and the Yorkshire pudding deflated a bit, and the wine was just root beer, but it felt homey for a few minutes. Until it just underscored how alone I was, and I cleaned it all up.

Finished the stocking. Haven't decided who's name to stitch onto the top. My mom told me to make a second one and she would wear them as socks under her motorcycle boots.



New Ancestral Stocking

In an attempt to clear out my yarn stash before tossing most of it at the thrift store, I got into some nubby black cotton and made up a little baby sweater. Immediately, every cat in the house had to find it and lay on it. Because cat hair shows on black, and they are still mad about the top-hat incident.

CO 56 stitches for front and back, 34 stitches for sleeves, and that's all the notes I took.

Failing at pattern-making.



While sorting all the crap in my sewing cupboard, I became sidetracked by some Anna Maria Horner fabric and an old Simplicity baby pattern.

So I still haven't hauled any shit to the thrift store or dump, but I have it all mentally arranged. And that counts for... very little, but still something.

speaking of hairy apples

No sooner had I said, "Those hairy apple things my janitor made me eat last year," than he turned up with a pile of hairy brown apple things. My coworkers eyeballed them and generously pushed them all toward me. Well guess who will be immortal when the right scary fruit thing comes along? This pie-making lady, that is who.

Definitely not an apple.

Recipe:

2 weird brown hairy fruit things

2 granny smith apples

spoonful of flour

1 handful of sugar, because there isn't much left and the brown sugar is missing

cinnamon

butter

lazy-ass pre-made pie crusts

Peel and chop up the fruits, toss them with flour, then mix in sugar and cinnamon, dump into pie crust, dollop with butter, pop top crust on and try to get fancy with it.

DONE. 

Actually, cook it for an hour at 350 first, and then for sure this time DONE.

P is for Pie.

The magic fruit cooked up just like apples, with a tart, perfumey, rose-like flavor. It is so amazing that after eating it, you may need this:

(I was very excited by this body fluid kit on the marine corps base bus. May petition the Friends of the Library to install them by our public computers. And flower pots. And trash cans. People are gross.)

Been trying to use this spare time to finish projects. I've started sketching out the next book project, but I can't find my fookin art box, which has all my paint brushes in it. So I'm finishing the Christmas stocking, which is roughly large enough to stuff an entire child into. The rule is that if it's bigger than my stocking, it's cheating. Not sure what to do about this.

Found my sketchbook from last year while hunting for my box (leave it) and found these cat gestures.

So, friends, WHERE IS MY BOX? It is blue, and well-used, and covered in splotches. It should be very hard to hide in a house with no closets. Internet, find it for me. I can't buy more brushes until Monday, and that is YEARS.

Edit: FOUND. Out in the open. Of course.

Oahu

I packed up three suitcases with clothes and toys, stuffed a cat in a carrier, and took the boys to Oahu. Cats can't be sent through the baggage x-rays, so they make you take them out and carry them through security while they try to claw out your hair and eyes (the cats, not security). The kids thought this was pretty fantastic. TSA thought it would be funny to make me hold my hands out for chemical swabbing even though I was holding a frantic cat, in case she was an elaborately disguised bomb. If I were going to disguise a bomb, I would knit it a bomb cozy and pretend it was ironic. And then get caught and go to prison, because I am terrible at subterfuge, and that hiding-in-the-open thing never works. That is how they got my keychain pepper spray and whiskey flask.

The Blue Angels were terrorizing Kaneohe in preparation for the air show. Driving back from the airport, traffic braked and swerved as the jets roared in overhead and buzzed the highway. We all flailed and yelled in excitement, and decided to take the kids to the show over the weekend.

Which we did.

I didn't get any shots of the show with my phone, as I am a fan of viewing things with my eyeballs. My favorite bit was when they burst out over the crowd from behind and made everyone scream. Stealth attack! I am not informed enough to be an enthusiast, but I appreciate a skillful display of weaponry and combat.

The kids appreciated flipping all the switches on the cargo plane and pretending to crash it. I banned them from flight school.



A hundred school buses glided up with military synchronization to carry the swarming masses back to their cars. I waited for them to execute precision barrel rolls while we rode through the base, and in general felt much better about our odds of surviving the zombie attacks. Leif was similarly at ease.

Back at my mom's house, Astrid was getting acquainted with the place. My two old cats from high school - now tottering around like 18-year old sacks of bone and fur and nubby teeth - almost keeled over from anxiety. Xebo started hissing at everything that moved, including the fan, and Hercules tried to hiss and went into an asthmatic coughing fit. Astrid galloped away, scrabbled down behind the washer, kicked out all the hoses, caused a flood, tried to escape through the bathroom window, and got caught between the screen and the closed louvers, smashed flat upside down like a trapped ferret.

Then she climbed the front screen and tried to walk across the curtain rod.

And traumatized the fish.

This was all very entertaining, but in the down time between forays to Target and visits to our favorite restaurants, we sat in the evenings watching Jeeves and Wooster and I knitted a tiny sweater, start-to-finish.



Vestee, my go-to pattern for folks with incoming offspring.

Made in washable Comfy.

I added cables up the sleeves, because I am fancy

and enjoy putting a lot of detail into something that will be barfed on.

I flew back alone on Tuesday. Three weeks to wrap things up and interview for transfer. A costco package of frozen burritos to sustain me. A new phone to pester the kids with via FaceTime. A bed to myself and the new J.K. Rowling book to take with me. The month will go by in no time.

DEATH MATCH - :Made up inside my head:

Working for the government is just a long slog through paperwork. Paperwork to do more paperwork. Waiting for the faxes of that paperwork to attach to other paperwork to submit with additional paperwork. There is paperwork to save other people from doing paperwork that no longer needs to be done, and paperwork to defend yourself when they panic and cc all your bosses because they don't know how to stop doing the paperwork you're trying to spare them.

 So yesterday I started devising a resignation speech in my head. It was in all-caps, and involved stapling things to people. I said as much to sarah, and she replied, "Do the resignation with a top hat and a cane."

This is excellent advice. And coincidentally, the Internet was in need of more pictures of cats in hats.

So here I present a DRAMATIC RE-ENACTMENT OF RESIGNATION WHICH HAS NOT YET OCCURRED.

Scene 1: soliloquy - "fucks I do not give." 

Scene - wait, oh no. Actor is drunk.

REENACTMENT CONTINUES WITH NEW ACTOR

Good day sir. I SAID GOOD DAY.

Much better. It really wasn't a complicated speech.

And all resignations are better when you end them with something random and confusing. ROBOT IN A TOP HAT.